Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Logistics: My Schedule

I remember reading way back in March a call for posting about logistics for/with working moms. At the time I was falling apart. It was generally a stressful time and I didn't feel anywhere close to having it together. Now I am about as together as I think I'll get. As such, I have decided to write a series of posts about the logistics of my life. I know that most of this is an exercise in navel gazing, but I think it's important to share the details of how we all manage to be working parents. I'm going to start this series with my current schedule of how an average weekday goes in my life. However, it is only an average weekday and there are a variety of things that might affect it. Say, a cold that causes Kiddo to wake up at 4:17am, 5:07am, and 5:30am, which may or may not have happened last night. So, as one might say in a paper: "The below is a representative schedule of an N of approximately 322 days."

Note: Kiddo is just over 15 months old now.
6:00am Wake up with alarm. If Kiddo hasn’t woken up during the night (praise God!), then go check to make sure he’s still alive.
6:05am Make oatmeal and coffee. Pack lunch. Feed dog. If diapers were wet the night before, stuff/pack diapers (we use cloth diapers like this).
6:15am Sit down for breakfast with coffee.
6:30am Crap! I’m late! Start negotiating for bathroom time with Dr. Man. (Yes, I realize this would be alleviated if I used the other bathroom, but neither one of us wants to lug stuff back and forth across the house. Yes, this might make us lazy.)
6:45am Get Kiddo up and dressed.
7:00am Leave the house for daycare.
7:15am Drop Kiddo off at daycare/get him started on breakfast there/talk with morning teacher
7:30am (ish) Arrive in lab (we have onsite daycare)
Work like a fiend
Noon(ish) Grab lunch either with Dr. Man (he works here too now!) or by myself
4:28pm Alarm goes off reminding me that I need to wrap things up. I frequently lose track of time and will look up from work and realize it’s late.
4:45pm Ok, I really need to pack up. Right after I finish this last little bit…
5:00pm Dr. Man calls asks if I’m ready to leave. Pack everything in a hurry inevitably forgetting something.
5:15pm Arrive at daycare. Gather up Kiddo’s stuff and talk with afternoon teacher.
5:45pm Arrive home. Unpack Kiddo’s stuff. Start/heat up dinner.
6:15pm Sit down for dinner as a family, but then get up a zillion times to get stuff for Kiddo.
6:45pm Dinner is done either because we’re done eating or Kiddo is done. Bath time!
7:00pm Done with bath. Now, time to get Kiddo ready for bed.
7:15pm Bed time story
7:30pm Bed time for Kiddo. Dr. Man may leave to go work out.
7:35pm Start Laundry
7:45pm Do Dishes. Prep dinner for the following day (this can involve getting stuff in the crock pot for the following day or making the entire dinner so it’s ready to go in the microwave the next day).
8:15/30pm Clean up kitchen. Mop dining room floor—Kiddo is a messy eater.
8:30pm Get laundry from dryer. Switch laundry if it’s done. Start folding laundry
9:00pm Usually done with folding and putting away laundry. Get all bags packed for the following day.
9:15/30pm Either read papers for the Review That Never Ends on my iPad or boot up computer to do some data analysis.
10:00/30pm Start to goof off.
11:00/30pm Bed time for me (hopefully! Sometimes I decide to stay up longer and then I suffer for it in the morning.)


Anandi Raman Creath said...

I'm tired just reading this!!!

One of the things that helped alleviate the stress when we were both working was splitting up daycare dropoff/pickup and then the home stuff that came before or after (getting ready or putting to bed). This way one person could go to work godawful early if they needed/wanted to, and the other could stay late as needed.

Jennie said...

My 21 month old usually wakes me up, and it looks like it only takes you 5 mins for you kid to fall asleep. Amazing sleep habits! Otherwise my day is similar. I do make sure when I get home I spend @30 mins to just play with my daughter, even if it makes dinner come later.

Amanda@Lady Scientist said...

Anandi: Right now we're carpooling to/from work. Dr. Man and I work in the same building and we have onsite daycare. So, we share drop off/pick up. I've broached splitting up the after dinner stuff, but thus far it hasn't worked out for one reason or another.

Jennie: We're lucky that he falls asleep so easily. I don't think he sleeps really well at daycare and is ready for an early bed time. The problem with Kiddo was never getting him to fall asleep; it was getting him to stay asleep. He sometimes still wakes me up a lot at night, but we now (usually) get one good 6 hour stretch out of him.

Giana Forzareli said...

Wow! And I thought super heroes didn't exists. How do you manage all of those tasks? Anandi had a great recomendation, it is time efficent and will take some stress off of your shoulders. If worse comes to worse you could always look for a logistics consultant
. I have seen a good amount of people trying to balance the demands of work and child care. I commend you for working so hard. I hope life settles down soon.

gigirose said...

OMG you manage a full 30 minutes for dinner!!! This is amazing. Particularly with a wee one. This sounds like bliss.
I just want to say congrats on cranking out a workable schedule for yourself (although, I will concur that you appear to be superwoman).